Nurses give so much of themselves, often working long hours with little time for rest. So what do nurses really appreciate? We asked real nurses to share the gestures that have meant the most.

So when a patient or family member wants to say “thank you,” what actually means the most?

We asked real nurses (and a few people who work closely with them), and their answers were as heartfelt as the work they do every day.

Food from the Heart

Overwhelmingly, nurses agreed: snacks are always a hit. As one former hospital secretary, Sharon Drach Mangas, shared:

“Nurses loved getting food treats from patients’ families—something they could easily eat on the run, like cookies. They barely have time to breathe, eat, or go to the bathroom, so grab-and-go snacks were always appreciated.”

From Heather Hudson Bishop’s vote for donuts to Mary Ann Patterson Hankins’ tradition of delivering a Peterbrooke Chocolatier tray to the nurses’ station, food remains the universal language of gratitude.

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What Nurses Really Appreciate: Beyond Food and Flowers

Food may be the universal love language for nurses, but the stories they shared prove that a little creativity goes a long way. From heartfelt letters to surprise coffee runs, these small but powerful gestures remind nurses why they chose this calling in the first place.

Julie McCraney suggested gift cards tailored to a nurse’s favorite hobby—whether gardening, crafts, or personal care. Chuck Sawyer emphasized the impact of a simple letter to a nurse’s manager, while Ginny Fikes noted that such letters can even help during annual evaluations.

And for something truly memorable? Farris Terry shared her favorite gesture:

“The most meaningful gift I ever received was a pair of hand-tatted baby booties when I was pregnant. Also—coffee. All nurses live off caffeine!”

Don’t Forget the Whole Team

While it’s natural to focus on the nurse you see most, Vickie Higgins Lyle reminded us that many “behind-the-scenes” staff members—nurse techs, clerks, and support staff—also play a role in patient care. Spreading the gratitude around ensures no one is left out.

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The Bottom Line: Thoughtfulness Over Perfection

At the end of the day, the best way to thank a nurse isn’t about the size of the gesture—it’s about thoughtfulness. From trays of chocolate to handwritten notes that get tucked away and reread on the hardest days, these moments reflect what nurses really appreciate most: knowing they’ve made a lasting difference.

💌 How about you? Have you ever thanked a nurse in a meaningful way? Share your favorite ideas in the comments—we’d love to hear them!